3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of 
his own body, but the wife.5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
We have reached the fourth or final blog of Divorce? Recover my Marriage. I recommend that you read the previous blogs or revise them again.
In this blog, I will continue talking about more practical and personal tips that helped me restore my marriage. I hope you can apply these basic concepts to continue your life as a couple.
Restoring or recovering my marriage (final)
Other practical and personal tips that have helped me restore my marriage are:
a. Time
Take some time with your partner, the children arrived later. They will grow and leave your home. Before is too late, then when they leave, you have a stranger living with you.
Find a nanny or a person who can take care of your family member if they are elderly or sick. Do not let circumstances consume you and your relationship.
Always have sexy clothes in your drawers, perfumes, and others. Take time for intimacy. Do not say you are old for that, because the sexual relationship is part of marriage and if you cannot for x and y reason there are always ways to please your partner in sexual intimacy.
b. Always give compliments to your partner
It is important to let your wife or husband know that you are looking at her or him. Letting them know that you are aware of her or his “look style” and / or dressing. Tell them some compliments (nice phrases). Let him know how important he or she is in your life.
Open the car door to your partner, pull the chair when she sit down. These are old manners that today is romantic and a good gentleman is always nice to have.
c. Caring for and loving us
Man and woman always take care of your appearance, physical and emotional health.
Go to the doctor, perform an annual physical study. Remember that over time our hormonal, physical, and emotional systems change so much for women and men. It is healthy to educate yourself about our bodies and as well of your partner to avoid situations that lead you to make incorrect decisions.
Do exercises together, for example, walk.
Make a good diet.
Make an appointment to the beauty salon or spa at least once a month. Loving yourself is important. A change of Image is good for you, feeling different is nice and surprising others, especially your partner.
Buy something for yourself, for example a new piece of underwear, a new perfume.
Surprise your spouse.
d. Seek help from a professional
It is healthy for you to always talk with a pastor or couples consulting professional (preferably with a Christian base or moral ethics). There are events that we often do not know how to handle and another opinion or perspective can help us.
e. Respect
Mutual respect is critical in the relationship. Do not forget that both make mistakes, but that does not give you the right to disrespect your spouse in private or public. Always take care of each other.
f. Allow God to be the center of your life and home
If both give the opportunity and to God, He will be the captain of your home, you will reach a safe harbor. There will always be ups and downs like the waves of the sea in your relationship, but with God everything will have a solution.
Finally, dear friend, we have reached the final stage of the Theme: Divorce? Recover my Marriage. In which I talked about practical and personal advice that has helped me to restore my marriage after a divorce.
I want to tell you that after almost 18 years in my marriage where we have ups and downs because of so many events in our lives and we also landed to a divorce. After doing a retrospection of our divorce, it was not that our love got cold, as they say, it was that we failed in many of the things mentioned in the blogs. We stop listening, we stop loving ourselves and we fail almost every step. But, how good God is, that what He unites is not separated by man. God restored our relationship on time. This experience leads me to be able to carry the message that there is hope to rescue your marriage from the hands of the enemy.
Prayer: Open your heart
Lord, before you we are in your presence. Asking forgiveness for our sins. We recognize that we are not perfect and that every stage of our lives there are ups and downs. If you Lord Jesus, you can be the captain of our relationship, we know that there is a solution for every situation in order to continue until the end of our days, until death separates us. Amen.
A friendly Advice
Woman and man you have to be wise. Breathe, seek God and read his word (bible), and seek for the answer. God directed me to read the book of Esther. Do not let your pride dominate you because when you wake up it will be too late. Seek help that will allow both to restore your marriage and may God be the center of your home.
Dear friend, I do not know which process impacted or is impacting your relationship with your partner. Perhaps communication, time, family, another person invaded your relationship, I do not know. there are so many things that lead us to fail the relationship that when we open our eyes we discovered that we did not give ourselves an opportunity.
We make decisions so fast that maybe we go back to marry other person and we fail and we wonder why. I’ll tell you why; because you continued with the same problems and they were never resolved in the first relationship. Maybe with talking you could have continued with your relationship. Never say that love is over, love has always been there. It was that you let go of love and never gave yourself the opportunity to rekindle the call of love.
NEVER TAKE DECISIONS SO FAST AS DIVORCE, THINK, STOP AND SPEAK WITH YOUR PARTNER AND A PROFESSIONAL.
The enemy, the devil, is looking for someone to destroy and he knows that the family is constituted by God and wishes to destroy the divine plan that is the family. DO NOT ALLOW THE ENEMY TO LAUGH AT YOU. REMOVE DEVIL’S SMILE TODAY AND WIN YOUR MARRIAGE AGAIN WITH GOD.
Smile because today is the opportunity to start a new relationship in and with God! Restore your marriage with God. GIVE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER A NEW OPPORTUNITY OF LOVE.
Note: If it is emotional or physical abuse, call or look for a professional.